The True Threat to Traditional Marriage
My last posting brings me to the next subject that I want to blog about. Traditional marriage is under attack in the U.S. from all sides. Many believe that the agenda of homosexuals to normalize same-sex marriage, and all of this for the true agenda of normalizing a deviant behavior, is the greatest threat to traditional marriage. While this does threaten what our posterity will recognize as "normal", the true threat to traditional marriage is already recognized as a normal part of living now. The true threat that I speak of is divorce.
For many years, about 1 in 2 Americans have been divorced. Many who are divorced go on to marry again, some of which later divorce again. How is it that we have gotten to the point of defending an institution that about 1/2 of the population appears to not believe in to begin with?
Marriage, from its roots, was a life-long commitment between one man and one woman. Let me clarify that statement by saying that from its Christian roots, referencing Paul's writings, marriage was a life-long commitment between one man and one woman. Divorce was given under the law by Moses, but as Jesus said Himself, it was given because of the "hardness of your hearts", but " from the beginning, it was not so." Jesus also clarifies that the legitimate reason for divorce is fornication within the marriage. Some argue that Paul also states that believers may divorce unbelievers without consequence. But nevertheless, from a Christian perspective, there are only a couple of legitimate reasons for divorce to be granted.
One reason for this is that marriage entails committing a vow to your partner. The vow is a life-long vow, death of one of the married being the only release. In one place, the scripture says that it is better to never have made a vow than to make a vow and break it.
So, if one professes to be a Christian, as most people in America today profess to be, then the only legitimate grounds for divorce is fornication, which is a breaking of the vow of marriage. Does this mean that the majority of divorces are as a result of divorce?
My guess is no. Since the inception of "no-fault" divorce, one does not have to have a reason to divorce his or her partner. All one has to do is file for divorce for "irreconcilable differences." And this is truly where the break-down of family and the threat to institutional marriage lies.
In today's world, marriage is more of a game of institutional dating. And with the involvement of secular law in marriage now, women particularly have much to gain from no-fault divorce; that is, if they married men who actually care about their children.
I could go on if time permitted about the Christian implications of divorce, but I will save that perhaps for another post. Any way you cut it, divorce is the scourge that is destroying marriage.
For many years, about 1 in 2 Americans have been divorced. Many who are divorced go on to marry again, some of which later divorce again. How is it that we have gotten to the point of defending an institution that about 1/2 of the population appears to not believe in to begin with?
Marriage, from its roots, was a life-long commitment between one man and one woman. Let me clarify that statement by saying that from its Christian roots, referencing Paul's writings, marriage was a life-long commitment between one man and one woman. Divorce was given under the law by Moses, but as Jesus said Himself, it was given because of the "hardness of your hearts", but " from the beginning, it was not so." Jesus also clarifies that the legitimate reason for divorce is fornication within the marriage. Some argue that Paul also states that believers may divorce unbelievers without consequence. But nevertheless, from a Christian perspective, there are only a couple of legitimate reasons for divorce to be granted.
One reason for this is that marriage entails committing a vow to your partner. The vow is a life-long vow, death of one of the married being the only release. In one place, the scripture says that it is better to never have made a vow than to make a vow and break it.
So, if one professes to be a Christian, as most people in America today profess to be, then the only legitimate grounds for divorce is fornication, which is a breaking of the vow of marriage. Does this mean that the majority of divorces are as a result of divorce?
My guess is no. Since the inception of "no-fault" divorce, one does not have to have a reason to divorce his or her partner. All one has to do is file for divorce for "irreconcilable differences." And this is truly where the break-down of family and the threat to institutional marriage lies.
In today's world, marriage is more of a game of institutional dating. And with the involvement of secular law in marriage now, women particularly have much to gain from no-fault divorce; that is, if they married men who actually care about their children.
I could go on if time permitted about the Christian implications of divorce, but I will save that perhaps for another post. Any way you cut it, divorce is the scourge that is destroying marriage.
posted by Badbeans | 11:40 AM
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We live in the age of "ME", the age of "NOW", the age of "FEELINGS", the age of "INACCOUNTABILITY", and the age of "WEALTH AND PHYSICAL COMFORT". We don't have to work as hard to obtain the things we want as did our parents and grandparents. We come by our fortunes much easier these days. Everything we have is picked up in the proverbial express lane compared to previous generations. Why should marriage be any different? At what point in our lives do we learn the value and meaning of commitment? Marriages are entered into with less consideration than buying a car. That car is traded in when it becomes too old or too expensive to maintain or too dented or dinged to meet our high expectations of what pleasure our possessions are supposed to bring us. It's no suprise that wives and husbands are "traded in" with equal frequency. We've allowed Hollywood to define for us what love is. Now being synonymous with infatuation and lust, we no longer make the difficult CHOICE to love, we FALL INTO IT, and with equal ease we fall right out of it. Marriage is nothing more than a contract of convenience, with plenty of clauses and addendums allowing for its termination. Having not escaped our temporal proclivities, marriage has become what marriage was never intended to be.....easy.
Auntie,
I am not bitter against women. Many women get the shaft in marriage, as you have pointed out, even about yourself. My sympathies used to lie primarily with women in divorce situations until I began hearing some of the stories about men who truly care about their families, but walk away with nothing having had no choice in the matter.
In my brother-in-law's case, he would still be with his family today if his wife had not insisted that he leave. She is living in their house, which he is still paying for, and has custody of their children, whom he has not seen now in almost 2 months. Most likely, he will walk away with nothing and be an every-other-weekend dad. And this is because the courts slant in favor of women in cases of family and children.
And you are right, divorce is ugly. Having been through it myself as a child of divorce, we did not have a bad divorce by comparison to many today. But it was still ugly and hurtful. I have dealt with repercussions up until just recent years, and my parents have been divorced for 24 years.
It is sad that we have lived to a day when people have no shame, no honor, but only selfishness. The only scripture that they can seem to quote, and only in part, is "Judge not."
Thanks Auntie D. I am with you about the ease by with divorce is attainable today. "Easy come, easy go" as the saying goes. If it were more difficult to get a divorce, people would think harder about making the decision to marry to begin with.
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